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As mothers, we are the nurturers, the caregivers, the superheroes who make the impossible happen daily. We juggle countless responsibilities, from soothing late-night cries to managing household chaos. Yet, amidst our superhero feats, there’s a crucial aspect we often overlook—advocating for ourselves.

In the whirlwind of motherhood, it’s easy to prioritize everyone else’s needs above our own. However, advocating for ourselves is not only a matter of self-care, but a revolutionary act that empowers us to be the best versions of ourselves for our families. Let’s delve into why advocating for ourselves is paramount within certain contexts of our daily lives in which we risk being overlooked.

One such context of self-advocacy would include accessing the highest quality of healthcare possible. Picture this: You’re at the doctor’s office, your little one in tow, and you’re bombarded with information and decisions. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and just go with the flow of standard care suggested by your healthcare provider. Yet, our voice matters regarding our health and our personal plan of care! Even if intimidated, we must learn to advocate for ourselves in healthcare settings by asking questions of our providers, expressing our concerns, and ensuring that our voice is heard. Whether it’s discussing treatment options, expressing pain levels, or seeking a second opinion, remember that your well-being is crucial to your ability to care for your family.

Part of caring for our families might include choosing to be a working mother. As working moms, we navigate a delicate balance between professional and family life. It’s not uncommon to feel the pressure to prove ourselves in the workplace while simultaneously managing household responsibilities. Don’t be afraid to advocate for your needs at work, whether it’s negotiating for flexible hours, requesting support, or speaking up about your achievements during performance reviews, and negotiating for higher pay. Recognize that your skills and contributions are valuable, and assertively communicate your needs to create a work environment that accommodates your life as a mother and a professional in your field.

Advocating for oneself can extend into a myriad of situations in daily life and learning to do so confidently is a mindset shift that permeates every aspect of our lives. Whether it’s setting boundaries with well-meaning relatives, communicating your needs to your partner, or ensuring that your personal goals are acknowledged, stand up for yourself. Your dreams, aspirations, and mental well-being are as important as anyone else’s.

Advocating for ourselves is not selfish—it’s an investment in our physical, mental, and emotional health. When we prioritize ourselves, we set an empowering example for our children, teaching them the importance of self-respect and assertiveness. Moreover, as we advocate for our needs, we contribute to a cultural shift where women’s voices are recognized, valued, and respected.

The time has come to make a collective commitment to advocate for ourselves. Let’s embrace the power of our voices, recognize our worth, and create a world where every mom feels empowered to prioritize her well-being. In doing so, we pave the way for a brighter future not just for ourselves but for our children following in the footsteps of the paths we’re paving today.

With love and solidarity,

Baileigh Tate

Becoming Mom